1) The beginning

Page created January 2014, rewritten May 2014

I have always liked men - I used to like flirting and dating and generally loved male attention. In my younger single days I had no trouble attracting men, and hence enjoyed an active social life as a teenager and in my twenties. When I met the right man at the age of 30 I had no trouble committing to monogamy, which is what we had for nine years. Admittedly, I never stopped being attracted to other men, and following discussions with my husband (as we have an honest marriage) I discovered that he got off on this. He encouraged me to explore these fantasies. When we made love following such fantasies, I noticed he would be bigger, deeper, harder and more vigorous (and my husband is not small!). I enjoyed this.

In June 2013 Dale advertised on Craig's List (CL) for a man to flirt with his wife in front of him, and have 'above waist only' fun. When I reviewed Dale's shortlisted candidates, I was immediately drawn to Ian. I was intrigued by his comments on the psychology of a married woman having sex with another man in front of her husband, and I was entranced by a hypnotic look in the photos he sent. He had sent just one facial picture. He looked very normal, and I don't suppose I would have noticed him in a crowd other than to appreciate him as a reasonably attractive man. However the way he was looking into the camera had an effect on me. The expression on his face came across to me as seductive. And this was to be not the only time Ian would have that effect on me -  I was soon discovered his uncanny ability to seduce in a frighteningly hypnotic way. That same 'come to bed' look in his mouth and eyes had me almost passing out many months later when we met for the first time.

Then, over a month after the CL posting we, out of the blue, had a reply from Ed. Ed and his wife had explored various types of threesomes and couple swaps, but now they played separately. Later discussions with him led us to conclude that he was a Cuckold to a certain extent, as he said he found it a turn on when he wife was off with another man. I was not attracted to Ed from his photos, but he wrote such a nice interesting reply that we thought he might be worth befriending, even just to aid our hope to develop a circle of like-minded friends.

I started communicating with both men. What a contrast.  Ian was erotic, he was seductive, he had me eating out of his hands within a few emails, and I was clamouring for more. Ed, on the other hand, was down-to-earth, friendly and easy to talk to. I really liked him.

Due to holidays and other summer commitments on all sides, no meet was arranged at first, although we maintained regular communication with both Ian and Ed, keeping our options open. I realised at this point that I was up for taking a lover. Dale and I were interested in the cuckoldry element that Ian offered, but Dale was also interested in a threesome, preferably with a bisexual element. This he discussed at length with an enthusiastic Ed, who was keen to have Dale, as the more experienced older man, help him explore his bisexual fantasies. Ed also suggested that Dale sleep with his wife too. I, however, could not get my head around a threesome, and definitely not where there was man on man. However, I liked the idea of a partner swap, and I especially liked the thought of seeing my husband with Ed's voluptuous curvy wife. On this issue, his wife point blank refused to meet us, let alone get involved, despite much persuasion from Ed. 

I desperately wanted Ian as a lover though, and for him to be my first extra-marital encounter. However, Ian procrastinated, so our first foray in this lifestyle ended up being with Ed, as described in 'Ed's story - part 1'. This was just a kiss and mild play, and I was still holding out for Ian. But as autumn arrived, and Ian just seemed to be content with sexting me, as described in 'Ian part 1 - a cyber affair', we wondered who would end up being the first man I have sex with in this lifestyle.

Then things went down-hill with Ed, as described in 'Ed's story part 2'.  And as for Ian - well he dicked us around so much we had to give up on him, as described in 'Ian part 2 - an obsessive addiction'.

We went back to Craigslist to recommence our search for a Bull. And we met Jerry. He appealed to us because he was respectful, educated and refined, as well as experienced in this lifestyle. However it was hard to get much chat out of him via email, and he ignored Dale's suggestion of getting to know me first. He wanted to go straight to arranging a meet, which we reluctantly arranged. However, with a date in the diary, Dale continued to try and get to know him. Then Jerry got a bit snippy - guess he was tired of the continuous email chain. We were feeling negative anyway, and this was the last straw for Dale. He said snippiness is the sort of thing that he would remember when watching a man having sex with his wife. Although I was less bothered, but I wasn't particularly excited about the forthcoming date because Jerry had said nothing to get me excited. Dale emailed to say we didn't feel it would work. Jerry politely thanked us for letting him know and acknowledged that it is important to get that right combination, and that it is wonderful when that happens. 

As the next few weeks went by we communicated with many rude, aggressive wannabe bulls, and even worse, men who marginalised Dale once they got my number. I wondered if we hadn't perhaps made a mistake with Jerry. Ed was now out of the country for 3 months, and Ian was proving, at that point, to be a waste of time. We were not doing well.

As it panned out things did not get of this ground for us until 2014, which you can read about in our very first blog 'A New Year and back in the saddle with a bang', and describes how Jerry came back into our life.

Pages 2-5 describe in more detail our encounters with Ed and Ian in the latter part of 2013 before we started this blog. Our relationship with Ian, despite its questionable start, continued on into 2014 and there are many blogs describing the development of that friendship.





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